Katherine Heigl nails it
TV star Katherine Heigl nailed it when she was interviewed and started talking about guys. I don’t agree with all of what she said, but she got the first part of it so very right:
“Guys are much more obvious than they think they are. I don’t know why all women don’t know this, but I think it’s because we just don’t want to believe that about guys. We want males to be better than they really are.”
She’s right that most guys are pretty obvious. Most guys want what they want, and every woman over 10 years old knows it. But I’m not so sure when she says that guys should be “better.” Passion makes them do good things as well as sleazy things. Some guys write poetry or symphonies for us. Some of them make great scientific discoveries so that we will be proud of them. Some of them conquer vast empires just to lay them at our feet. Okay, that last one isn’t so good because people get hurt in the process. But still. At least half (and maybe most) of the good things that guys do, they do because they want something from us. Is that so bad?
Sure, we should all be better. But I like guys the way they are. The fact that they are obvious means you can usually see what they’re trying to do, even apart from the one obvious thing they are always trying to do. That makes it easier to stay safe and be at least a little bit in control of things. If guys were less obvious or their desires weren’t simple, it would be a lot harder for us. I met one guy recently who was like that, devious and complex, and he fooled me completely up to a point. I wasn’t in real danger (not much, anyway) but I could have been.
So I say: Hooray for guys! I love the way they usually just want one thing, but will do lots of other really good things to have a chance of getting it.
Copyright 2009 by Rinth de Shadley.