Archive for July, 2009

I want to have Rachel Maddow’s baby

I want to have Rachel Maddow’s baby.

Well, maybe not. There are some obstacles, even though Rachel is one of my heroes and role models.

Rachel is a political commentator on MSNBC, where she hosts “The Rachel Maddow Show.” She’s funny, smart, and has a doctorate in political science from Oxford University in England. She is also very pretty in an offbeat way. I love how she gets kind of a half-smile when she’s making an important argument. If I can get to know as much as she does, be as witty as she is, and can duplicate that half-smile, then I will feel as if I’ve made it.

Of course, Rachel is also a lesbian. I’m fine with that, though I’m not a lesbian myself. A couple of my friends at school are what we call LUGs — “lesbians until graduation.” And yes, I have kissed a girl, more than once, but it doesn’t mean the same thing to us as it does to guys. It’s about friendship and emotional intimacy, unless you’re a lesbian, in which case it means a bit more as well.

Rachel also has a partner, Susan Mikula, with whom she’s been for 10 years. So I suppose that even if she wanted a baby, I wouldn’t be her first choice to have it.

Okay, forget about the baby. But I’ll still watch Rachel’s show on MSNBC. And I’m still trying to learn that half-smile.

Copyright 2009 by Rinth de Shadley.


Here … this will help you.

My mother means well. She really does. She wants me to be the best person I can be, and never to settle for less. I understand that.

But sometimes it does get to be a little much. There’s the computer program she bought me to prepare for taking the GRE, even though I’m not sure I want to go to graduate school. I think she might be okay with me going to law school or medical school, but I’m not sure about those either.

Today, she presented me with a shiny new TI-89 Titanium calculator. It graphs, handles logarithms, takes roots, finds derivatives, and does pretty much everything but cook dinner and pick out my clothes for me. It’s supposed to help with my calculus homework in summer school. Eventually, it probably will. Tonight, however, I spent most of my time trying to figure out how to work it. A simple calculator is easy to learn and use. A calculator that does everything, not so much.

I spent so much time figuring it out that I never got to try it on my homework, so I don’t know how much help it will be. At the end I was looking to see if it had a vibrate setting like my cell phone, but I didn’t find one.

Copyright 2009 by Rinth de Shadley.

Katherine Heigl nails it

TV star Katherine Heigl nailed it when she was interviewed and started talking about guys. I don’t agree with all of what she said, but she got the first part of it so very right:

“Guys are much more obvious than they think they are. I don’t know why all women don’t know this, but I think it’s because we just don’t want to believe that about guys. We want males to be better than they really are.”

She’s right that most guys are pretty obvious. Most guys want what they want, and every woman over 10 years old knows it. But I’m not so sure when she says that guys should be “better.” Passion makes them do good things as well as sleazy things. Some guys write poetry or symphonies for us. Some of them make great scientific discoveries so that we will be proud of them. Some of them conquer vast empires just to lay them at our feet. Okay, that last one isn’t so good because people get hurt in the process. But still. At least half (and maybe most) of the good things that guys do, they do because they want something from us. Is that so bad?

Sure, we should all be better. But I like guys the way they are. The fact that they are obvious means you can usually see what they’re trying to do, even apart from the one obvious thing they are always trying to do. That makes it easier to stay safe and be at least a little bit in control of things. If guys were less obvious or their desires weren’t simple, it would be a lot harder for us. I met one guy recently who was like that, devious and complex, and he fooled me completely up to a point. I wasn’t in real danger (not much, anyway) but I could have been.

So I say: Hooray for guys! I love the way they usually just want one thing, but will do lots of other really good things to have a chance of getting it.

Copyright 2009 by Rinth de Shadley.

Categories: Dating, Guys, Life, Movies and TV

Every day is interesting, even at 6:30am

Every day is interesting because you don’t know what will happen. You might meet the love of your life, or win the lottery, or the earth might get hit by a comet.

Of those three options, I prefer the first two. If I could only choose one, I would naturally choose to meet the love of my life. But like most things, that’s not in my control. We partly make our lives, but mostly they just happen to us and we have to deal. That’s about as philosophical as i can get at 6:30 in the morning.

I’m still sleepy but I have to get dressed and finish my studying from last night before I go to work. I have a summer job working as a restaurant server and I usually work lunch, but I have to be there at 9am. It helps that I wear a server uniform so I don’t have to decide what to wear, but I go to class right after work, so I still need some nice clothes for class in case the love of my life shows up.

I want these blogs to be interesting, but I wonder how other bloggers do that. Most of my life is routine, and I don’t want to make things up just to have something to write about. I’m still working on the tone. I want it to be sassy, provocative, and a little sexy. I suppose that I could blog some of my poetry or talk about my math homework, but that would probably put everyone right to sleep. I have definite opinions about fashion, hair, and makeup, but I don’t want to bore any readers who are guys. I don’t think that I should talk too much about where I live because of the danger of stalkers. Oh, well, I will figure it out.

Enough for now. If you think that my life is interesting enough to read about, then thank you! If you come into the restaurant today, I will give you a free latte.

Copyright 2009 by Rinth de Shadley.

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Date, study, then cook. Is that what life is?

I’m getting a late start this morning because my date last night ran long. We sat downstairs and watched DVDs for most of the evening.

I teased him that I wanted to watch “Gossip Girl,” but we ended up watching a German movie called “Run Lola Run.” It was a good compromise because it had a strong female character for me, and she was sexy enough to interest him. The movie was about a woman whose boyfriend lost $100,000 belonging to a drug dealer. She has 20 minutes to get the money somehow or the drug dealer will kill him. It was actually pretty cool, and it does last longer than 20 minutes (I won’t spoil it by telling you how). I am glad that the actress lives in Germany, because even though she must be at least 30, my date’s tongue was hanging out all through the movie. I don’t need that kind of competition. On the other hand, his tongue was still hanging out after the movie and he was full of energy, so that was a good thing.

I’m mostly studying today (Sunday) because I don’t get much time during the week between my summer job and summer school class. Tonight, it’s my turn to cook dinner for the family, so I think that I’ll make chicken and dumpling casserole (tasty but fast and easy to make) with pasta salad and buy some cookies for dessert. Yes, I do know how to make cookies, but mine aren’t as good as the ones from the bakery.

Copyright 2009 by Rinth de Shadley.

Back from the Gamer Thing

I’m back from the gamer thing. Jeremy and my brother got eliminated early on, and there wasn’t much reason to stay after that. And yes, Jeremy did ignore me like I expected, but I’m still sorry he lost.

I have a date tonight but it will be low key. We will probably just have dinner and watch a DVD. Last time, we went to a theatre and he made me sit through “Transformers,” so this time I get to pick the movie. I’m tempted to make him watch my DVD of  “Mamma Mia!” just to get even, but i don’t want to get him so estrogenized that he loses interest in me and wants to try on my clothes. The good thing about action movies like “Transformers” is that they get guys excited, which makes them very attentive and interested for the rest of the evening.

So between now and my date, I need to exercise, study, and get ready. And that’s actually a pretty nice Saturday.

Copyright 2009 by Rinth de Shadley.

Categories: Dating, Life