Is it okay for people you don’t know to compliment you about your body? And how should you react?
Another blogger, Morgan, shared her experience. She was walking home from the gym, wearing shorts, and a stranger complimented her legs. She wrote:
I kept walking quickly by and looked towards the ground. I was sort of embarrassed and I remember nervously laughing to myself, “Yeah right buddy!”
Most of us have probably had some experiences like that. It can be a little uncomfortable to realize that someone you don’t know is evaluating your body.
It feels weird even if he doesn’t plan to do anything. It might be a nice, innocent compliment, or it might be some nutty stalker looking for his next victim.
As far as I can tell, there’s no rule for handling those situations. You just try to get a sense of the person and what he means.
Depending on the situation, I might do the same thing as Morgan: just look down, keep walking, and hope that the guy doesn’t follow me.
If the guy really seems okay, and the situation feels safe, I might just smile and say “thank you.” But you have to be careful about that, because the guy might think it means you’re interested, and he might not be as okay as you thought he was.
Anyway, whether they say anything or not, you know when guys are looking and what they’re looking at. As long as the situation doesn’t seem dangerous, I just try to take it as a compliment. I suppose that the day I should really start to worry is if they stop looking.
With me, unlike Morgan, it’s usually not my legs that get their attention. Think higher up. That’s okay. I don’t expect guys to give me eye contact for the first couple of seconds.
Copyright 2010 by Rinth de Shadley.
The title of this blog isn’t a joke. I really am going to explain why atheists love breasts.
Of course, it’s also a shameless attempt to improve my blog stats by mentioning two of the hottest topics on the Web: atheism and breasts. I admit that. Sue me. My aunt is a lawyer. She’ll eat you alive. Come to think of it, I haven’t had breakfast yet and I’m kind of hungry.
But back to our topic. Breakfast can wait.
You will be happy to know that I have scientifically verified my hypothesis. I once dated a guy who claimed to be an atheist, and he really did love breasts. I’m not saying anything more about how I know he did, because I’m not writing that kind of blog. I admit that my sample size (one atheist) is kind of small, unlike my … no, I’m not going to go there. It’s not that kind of blog.
By the way, I say that the guy “claimed” to be an atheist because there’s some doubt about whether he really was one. On several occasions, I heard him cry out “Oh, God!” Never mind which occasions. It’s not that kind of blog.
Anyway, why do atheists love breasts?
Basically, it’s because breasts are material objects and atheists are all about materialism.
Atheists usually believe that nothing exists except material reality and its effects. Of course, they define material reality kind of broadly, to include things like energy. But the essence of their viewpoint is that if physical science can study it, then it’s real. Otherwise, it’s just a fairy tale that we tell ourselves because we’re afraid of dying.
Based on scientific evidence, nobody can prove that atheists are wrong. But what atheists try not to admit is that nobody can prove they are right, either. Atheism and materialism are not scientific conclusions. They are philosophical viewpoints.
It’s like the old saying that if your only tool is a hammer, then every problem looks like a nail. Atheists are impressed (as anyone should be) by the achievements of physical science. But they then leap to the conclusion, unsupported by scientific evidence, that every problem is a suitable nail for the scientific hammer. Okay, that was a pretty lame metaphor, but you get the idea.
Physical science studies physical reality. If it fails to find anything except physical reality, that fact shouldn’t surprise anyone. And it shouldn’t be taken to imply that only physical reality exists. But that is the core of the atheist argument. There are other factors, but that’s the main one.
Any thinking person has to consider the possibility that atheism is true, even though it’s an essentially negative idea: that God does not exist. But when you think a little more, you realize that science is neutral about God’s existence. And there’s plenty of other evidence from history, people’s lives, and our own personal experience to suggest that God really does exist.
What it comes down to is free choice. The evidence doesn’t force us to decide one way or the other. Based on the evidence, we can conclude that God exists or doesn’t exist. When we make our choice, it’s as much a statement about who we are and how we see the world as it is a statement about whether or not God exists.
And now, please excuse me. There’s some coffee cake in the kitchen that looks just Heavenly. I’ll have to pray for the strength not to eat two pieces instead of just one.
Copyright 2009 by Rinth de Shadley.
“A bent spine might mean back problems, a big protruding belly, and saggy breasts.”
Oh, great. So global warming, the economy, and all the relationships on “Gossip Girl” weren’t enough for us to worry about?
Now, it turns out that our mothers were right about sitting up straight. According to this article, bad posture can have some pretty scary effects.
I watch what I eat, even though I’m currently 12 pounds over my high school weight. I exercise every day, though not as obsessively as I did the week I got hypnotized — see my earlier blog article about that. But my mother and grandmother have always nagged me about my posture. They are mainly concerned that I not be rude, but it turns out that there are even more important reasons for it.
The article gives three ways to minimize the problem:
- “Always sit as tall as you can.” I don’t do this. I tend to slouch and slide all over the chair. So I’m going to work on it.
- “Do an exercise called the hip raise daily.” I’m going to start doing this. You lie on your back with knees bent, feet flat on the floor, and arms at your sides. Then raise your hips until your body is straight from your knees to your shoulders.
- “Stretch your chest.” I already do this whenever a cute guy walks into the room. :) But to do it as a fitness exercise, you put your hands on the sides of a doorway and walk through until you feel the stretch in your chest.
The article also gives the usual advice about eating right. Fortunately, it doesn’t say to avoid chocolate. I’m not giving that up.
Copyright 2009 by Rinth de Shadley.